TUESDAY, JANUARY 29, 2008 - 20:09
In this song you talk about us men stepping up to the plate dealing with our kids. I agree, I also notice you mention about baby mama drama, but it was just a little about it. Even in the churches they bash the men about being out there sexually, but it goes both ways.
Even in the bible in metion adultry being presented to Jesus, but it was a woman. Which proves it's not a man thing but a human thing. Some say to me that it's the men who teach the women to be like that, but the truth; game was taught to me by a woman. I woman never get caught because men are not going to go to another man and tell them that they are sleeping with thier woman, for the fear of the reaction form the other man or the woman not letting us close ever again.
I brought that up to say, it has to start going both ways dealign with this subject, because we are living in the last hours. Our females need to kept accountable for what they do, not only the fact that we both cause this action to happen, but they can't treat the men like their are trash, or just a seed provider.
You carry so much wait, but plz pray on this subject, because so many of our youth are seeing this mess and seeing that it's ok to treat the men this way,and the men have no reason to act they way they do no matter what they do tho these men. I am not with my kids mothers, but have taking care of my daughter by myself with God's help from people that are not even family. The mother and myself have very good communications, but i do have another child, and I feel as though if i just pay the child support then I don't have to deal with her mouth. Dealth and life is given through the power of the tongue. My son really don't know me because me and the mother just can't communicate seems I decided top leave her. The main reason hwy I left was because of the mouth. So only men who has been there would understand, but we need the women to understand, that the men have feelings too, and need help from them too dealing with the communication.
Plz reply need some guidance!!!
Alphene "Baby Boy" Rhone
POSTED BY ALPHENE
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I don't think you sound angry but are frustrated in how to handle this type of situation. Now I do agree that you should go to God in prayer. And when you pray listen or wait on God to give you an answer on how to handle every situation. Believe me He will answer you. He may answer you suddenly or He may use a vessel (person or thing) to guide you through. God's Word says in
Phil 4:6, "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. " (NIV) and in Ro 8:28 it says, "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." As you see it is good to turn to the Word of God to give you guidance. Ask Him to give you an understanding heart. There is a reason why we act and react the way we do. God will give you peace in your situation as you seek Him. Pray that your children's mothers and your children and following generations do the same. My prayers are with you. Stay strong and courageous in your walk with God.
Hey Bro
Yeah your right, its not just a mans problem, we are all responsible for our own actions, especially in the area of relationships....but if you look back over history...our parents generation who were children of the world war 2 veterans...you'll see how a whole generation of men were affected. They passed this on to the next generation, (our fathers)...& they then passed it on to us. What exactly did they pass on?....well what ever it is men struggle with today. Wondering what is means to be a man, and needing to be validated, looking to the women for that validation,...when she's doing the same thing back...and both getting nowhere.....the answer is in the Cross & Person of Jesus Christ..the role model for all men & women.....
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Nik
yeah i agree
Pray!!! You must stop, realx and pray let God lead the way. Let the person or persons that you feel are not right in your life or around you find the strength from God to do the right thing, weither it be a Man or Woman, its takes Prayer to the Lord to help. We are sinners always, it is up to us in our heart to find the right way with the Lord. But we as christans who know the Lord must do our best to try to lead them there, if not we must just step back and let the Lord find a way into their lives.
Just dont let the hate take over your heart and know that you have the Lord on Your side always and thats all that matters. women will be women but deep inside we all want a man in the lives of our children no matter what we may say. Its hard for both sides.
It also takes commuication and strength to hear things you may not want to but are willing to work through, always ask the Lord to stay with you during the times you may encounter your baby momma and help her to understand that the children are the ones who suffer, but also you as parents. Having to explain to a child why mommy or why daddy is not there is very difficult.We always picture a happy perfect home, often we fall short, but you dont have to be living together to be civilized and happy. Try YOUR best that's all you are entiled to do you can not take the actions of others on your shoulders. Let GOD do the rest.. I pray for you and your situation, I pray that the Lord will give you the strengh to get through it. Blessins.
You sound angry. He stated in the song it takes a whole nation.....you know and I know that in our society our male counterparts have struggled to meet the challenges that face our society. I am in the home with a male who cares deeply for his children, however, because he has to work 16hours a day 3-4 days a week....he misses out on those special moments with his children, and when he heard the song......he stated that it not only means the deadbeat fathers but it is speaking to the father who has forgotten to spend quality time with their child.......it is all in how you perceive it.......It takes a whole nation................